A Harvard study has tracked hundreds of people since 1938.
The happiest were not those with money or power.
They were those with the best relationships with spouses, family and friends.
Those who, after retiring, actively sought out new social circles outside of work.
“Those good relationships don’t have to be smooth all the time,” Dr. Waldinger said. “Some of our octogenarian couples could bicker day in and day out. But as long as they felt that they could really count on the other when the going got tough, those arguments didn’t take a toll on their memories.”
The key to this is:
1. Try to expand your friend circle. Make a concerted effort to meet new people. The more people you meet the more likely you are to find people that are more in your line of thinking. The more likely to become great friends.
2. Track people. Track how often you have quality relationships with the people you care about. Make an effort to have these quality interaction more often.
3. Candor. With spouse, family and friends leads to better relationships. Relationships built on trust. If your people trust that you are looking out for them and will do what you say, they will do the same for you.
4. Filter. If someone isn’t adding to your life after a concerted effort to be candid with them. Stop interacting with them.
Looking for a resolution to make for 2017? Make it about the relationships with the people around you.
Example habit: Have an hour long catch up discussion with at least one person you care about once a week.
Source for the study: http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/…/the-secrets-to-a-happy-lif…/
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