Author Archives: Konrad

Distance your self from your emotions. I’m anxious. This emotion will stay around for a while, modify it a bit: I’m feeling anxious. Thats better, now you’re you don’t identify yourself as anxious but are starting to identify the transient nature of the emotion. I’m feeling anxiety. Now you’re separating the anxiety from yourself. Instead…More

Its easy to know that the person you’re talking to did this or that wrong. Its hard to experience how they are going to feel when you tell them that. By roleplaying in your head you can avoid hitting too much of a nerve. Hopefully, you can avoid an entrenching on the other person’s part.…More

It doesn’t help you to be morally outraged. To have an emotional reaction to someone screwing you over. To be shocked by the cold blooded murder of 100s of people. Instead, be ready to act rationally and in your interest in the aftermath of such events. Being able to act immediately will provide enormous value…More

Too often people will be rock stars in their careers but ignore their health and personal relationships.   Take the skills that make you good at your job and improve your health. Eat better, exercise, lose the weight.   Pay attention to your personal relationships. Have empathy, be transparent, be helpful.   A great career…More

These reactions are what lead us to be happy or sad; angry or calm.   They dictate what we say in any given situation and especially how we act.   They’re nearly impossible to change in the moment.   The key is to recognize the patterns of reactions that you experience and change them over…More

If we’re nice to people its because we think that they will do things for us in return.   If we dress a certain way its either because we want to fit in or be noticed.   The topics of conversation we pick are a statement telling others the type of person that we consider…More

Whether its the luck of knowing the right person to help you start a company. Or the luck of having an experience that gives you an especially good approach to your work. Or the luck of meeting a professor in college who led to that 6 figure starting salary. Or the being born in a…More

No matter how much time you spend on self-improvement you will hit a wall. This wall isn’t that much higher than the rest of the human race. Maybe 20%. Maybe 50%. Definitely not more that 100%. Thats pretty depressing when you realize that the difference between human’s and others species is measured in the thousands…More

Its something where every time you build a good new habit there is another one that will give you a leg up. Every time you break a bad habit, theres another bad habit to break. Its not like learning to ride a bike where you learn and then you know. Its not like learning a…More